You are a glutton for punishment, you know that? I don't mean to burst your bubble, but you have these big plans for this "talk" and all you want to say to her. And know what? By her actions, she really couldn't care less. At the moment it doesn't matter if you think she had affairs....because she's done.
Let me ask you something. If an old girlfriend that you don't care about anymore (can you envision an old gf?) walked up to you and wanted to know things about your old relationship, like did you cheat on her, would you give her the time of day? No, because it's over. You think about your wife's response in the same light. You aren't on the same page. She is burning bridges while you are trying to build them.
So forget about this talk you want. Forget about your big plans to get some truths out of her and have a heart-to-heart that will change her mind. Tear up your letter and write one that includes your plans for YOU (and just you).
Me
Me Thanks for your post. Its like every time you post, I get a feeling that I can be okay but I just dont know what to do, how to act or what to say. Maybe I am a glutton for punishment. I just dont know what to do. I want to have a heart to heart talk with her, I want to let her know that I forgave her once and I can forgive her again but I want things to be different in every aspect. Like a fresh start, old marriage died and a new one was born. I dont know what to say that will change her mind. My letter was going to have plans for me in it. to answer your question if an Old GF walked up and wanted to know what happened and if she asked questions I would answer them but I would blow her off and make her feel uninportant.
