What does my XW Want?

[JMC]

I can relate to so much of your post. Although I am not yet divorced we have been very civil in the past, including intimacy up until about three months ago (separated ~ 9 mo').

Halloween is her BD and yesterday was tough. Weddings, like you, also totally get me down. I can very much imagine being in your shoes after our D - wondering why it can not work.

Seems as if you two get along well and should continue on with your path of communication. I have read various sources that suggest anywhere from 6-20% of divorces end up in re-marriage.