Hardly faking it anymore: Puddle's third thread

[S.T. _I Made It!]

"You know, H was curled up at the bottom of the bed just now as we were talking, and I was thinking about reading posts here that say things like, And I just wanted to reach out and touch her! Tell him I love him! Hold her! etc etc, and I thought, nope"

Oh, there were plenty of times I felt that same way. almost couldn't even look at him in the face. Although I did end up having my time of being sexually turned on by him...the wanting what you can't have syndrome.

On ideas for trying to show him HIS 5LL. Do you dress up sexy and flirt at all???? If his top 5LL is physical affection, then I think looking good and flirting would be a big thing for him. Or maybe there's a perfume that he really likes.

For some reason, this thought occurred to me, which you've quite possibly already discussed. You know all the weird comments about H saying what if he were gay... I'm wondering if that's because he is confused with his sexual orientation. Since you guys never really had that "lust" thing for each other, and it was more of a business commitment (in your words I think it was) that he's thinking maybe it's not just you specifically, but women in general, and that's why he's not getting that "feeling" he's after. I'm sure that wasn't rocket science research on my part, but it just popped into my head.

So if you ARE taking care of yourself physically (which may sound vain sometimes, but it is important that we do this for many reasons) What exactly are you doing? When you go out, how do you look? Do you know what feature your H has liked about you? If so, accentuate it.

I really think flirting is a big factor. It shows confidence, and it gives them an ego boost. Of course, your H is different than most it seems, but have you tried it yet?

Sounds like the kids had a great time, and I bet they were adorable!