Very well said, Rob. I hope you will listen to him Tostada. Instead of being the angry husband (even if you have all the rights in the books that say you do) try to be a person she will like and fall in love with. Become that interesting, sexy, man that she would be attracted to and then flirt with her and hopefully woo her back. But it will take time.....you have got to be patient.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!