I can't really add to anything they've said. I'd agree to proceed cautiously. She just got kicked hard and knows she can turn to you. Hopefully with this step you can rebuild your marriage. I'd also agree 100% with getting a counselor involved.
I know it hurts to think of her having sex with someone else. That pain, like all other pain, subsides with time until it gets to the point where you practically forget it ever happened.
Good luck.
Also, Kiki, glad to hear that you and H are still working on things. I think anyone who has been on here long enough knows that piecing things back together is extremely difficult.
