Well, this IS true. The crux of the matter is that my kids, your kids, everyone on this board kids will be OK. They'll just never be as OK as they would be with two happy parents in a committed M. That's the part about the WAS that bugs the hell out of me.
I don't subscribe to the theory that a D will ruin my girls' lives. I do know that it will affect them in ways that I'm just not smart enough to anticipate right now
I have to completely agree with those above statements, that is what is killing me the most right now. Especially because my S10 ADORES his father. He is a complete mini-me of his father and my husband is EXTREMELY strongly proud of being a good father to his son, but yet he doesn't see what he is doing in the long term to his S!!! I think it DOES affect the kids in an emotional way, and yes most people say 'oh kids are resilient'. Well sure they are, they get USED to the situation, but that doesn't mean it HAS NOT affected their emotional spirit! I have friends today who still talk about how their parents D has affected them in regards to relationships or emotional pain. And this can be avoided I think, if we all learn how to grow and not run away, take the easy way out. BIG SIGH. My feelings on this. Thanks for bringing that up, it has been something I have wanted to talk about for a while. Especially to my H. But he cannot see this right now.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Sounds like you're looking forward to trick-or-treating as much as the kids! I hope your PMA is soaring and W gets into the spirit for the girls. I'm determined to have a great time t-o-t with H and the kids, too. Because hey, it's not about us, it's about candy!
I misread your post and thought you'd said you're starting to really want to be around W. I was getting ready to deliver a cyber b*tchslap. Glad it's not necessary.
WAW, Heim's right: nobody does that. It's a holiday, for goodness sake, and a kid one at that. Sorry you won't get to be there with them. Tonight is my H's night to go out and a small part of me was hoping he'd just go, but he wants to do the kid thing. They'll be happy, of course.
Have a great day, Heim, and fun tonight, whether W's on edge or not. She's waiting for you to bug her. You ready?
Man, I love that book. Was going to read it last night, but Casey opted for "O Say Can you Say" instead.
And, yep, it's a shame. C'est la vie. I'm getting closer and closer to true acceptance.
While I would prefer to spend time with my W, I don't really want to right now. That make any sense Puddle? I just really see the void between what we have now and what we almost certainly could have and it just bums me out a bit -- but less and less each day.
Yes, Puddle, me like candy. Sometimes I'm 36 going on 5.
Have fun with/for the kids, it'll be fine.
She's either waiting for me to bug her, wanting me to bug her/starting to rethink things, or nervous about telling me she's seeing OM again. Whatever, nada I can do on anything. So, I'm going to have fun and get me a candy buzz later.
As we say, muddling ahead at full speed.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Heim - Have fun tonight with your girls and don't let the W bring you down. Have a great time and make her see what a great man/father you are and make her want you. There is nothing sexier than a man with his kids.
I agree with Lissie, Heim. You make me laugh out loud sitting in my quiet cubicle hear at work.
Show us the heatmiser! I came to work in a devil costume and I entitled it "Devils Advocate". My wry humor at work for all of my current life situations, but it felt good to dress up for the helluvit and the kid in me!! Another powerPMA!! (Put all hands together...go DBs!!)
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
