Hi, new here and my H is in MLC at 32.

[txbutterfly]

I think our session today went well. I stood up for myself a lot more than I have up until now. I think H was surprised. He tried to act as if he thought it was "good" I was standing up for myself, but in reality he seemed a little threatened...off balance a bit. He called me later in the day and said something about not wanting things to be awkward or upset between us, wanting to get along, etc. and I just agreed. Then did a tiny victory dance that he caved first...bad, I know.

The whole thing right now with this limbo is that it's a giant power struggle...a war of sorts. He has been holding all the power b/c he dropped the bomb, b/c he was infatuated with OW and is now infatuated with this 'fantasy life' that he wants to go live. I've not been using my power b/c I have been so knocked off my feet that I wasn't in touch with it. Now I am *barely* starting to get in touch with it and I think it could be fun.

One thing I want to ask about as far as GAL...did you all just focus on making new, SAME-SEX friends? Or did you "hang out" with friends of the opposite sex? Did you date? I don't think it would be a good idea for me to date (I'd be pi**ed if H went on a date!). So I'm wondering how to build my social network (as part of my GAL strategy) while also having best impact on H. I read another post on here where one LBS (wife) was telling her WAH about all the cute guys in her new apartment complex. I know it can't be done to "make" them jealous, but it can't hurt if they just happen to feel jealous by your new life, right?

Thx for the advice and for "listening".