More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

Thank you all for your comments. The last thing I would do is give her an ILY, she is well aware of where I'm at with this ("I'll have hope until it's dead inside of me").

And I know where she is at. What I'm thinking is that I'll do the card, maybe somewhat sentimental because she has admitted that at one time our marriage was a great thing. I won't make it sound like a loss though. Maybe there's a way to work the kids into it...

Anyway, I'll get the card but wait to see how the day goes. I don't mind throwing some money towards Hallmark and never delivering the message - I mentioned it once before in an earlier post - I would much rather 'forget' our 14th year married, 20th year together (the week after ann.) and be able to celebrate 15 and 21 with her in 2008.

Think I'll be prepared for the day but follow her lead.

thanks again!