I guess I have gotten rid of alot of the anxiety that wasn't letting me think straight.
Facing reality is easier than facing the unknown I guess. It's still not easy, but it sounds like you are on the right road! Stay strong!
My D17 has been in counseling. Last night I went to her appt alone because she was sick. Had a good talk. Interesting thing the counselor said: Her parents divorced when she was 13 and to this day her favorite memory is having meals together with her parents. So things like being able to go to breakfast together and share a hug and kiss is important. Sure can be confusing, though! I still can't hide my feelings completely from my H (he knows when he has done something to upset me whether we are together or just on the phone), but I'm not crying buckets any more at least. The other thing I learned from the counseling session is that I NEED MORE COUNSELING!!!
Don't stay away, Penny, now that you finally started a new thread! Hope you have a stress free weekend (ha,ha. Like that is possible for either one of us!!!)
I was just on YOYO thread. You will have to read what my H has done now. It is definitly time for me to move ahead. He handed the phone to OW when he called my SIL to talk to his brother. Oh man was she mad. Whew....He is definetly not the ma I married. Why do they do that. He is living with her and going to lunch and everything now that I told him I just couldn't take it any more. Let him off the hook he would never be the bad guy and leave and get a divorce. When I leave she will have a lot of work to do.
It has drug on a long time. He has used me. I think I finally can move on. It hurts like hell but after putting up with this for the last 5 years it is time to do something. He is not going to change. He likes the single life to well. Maybe he will stay with her maybe not. But I know its not me. I am going to a play with some friends. We have to go to town 60 miles to the show tomorrow. It will be fun then I have some work to do Sunday. He will call me tomorrow should I ignore the calls for a few days?
Thanks It just is hard to understand why they do this stuff to us. I think it will be good to ignore him. Watch he will foool me and won't call because he is with her.
Yes, it is very hard to understand them. From June to September I didn't hear from my H. At the beginning of Sept. was when the football season started and daughter cheered at the games. He saw me that Friday night. That Monday he started calling me and has been calling, going places with me, and spending time together. I think he is getting cold feet again. I don't know why he even started pursuing me again.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I don't think they know what they want so they do this roller coaster thing and we don't know from day or another which dip or hill they might be on because they can't figure it out. They want us and then they don't. They aren't happy and don't know what they want to make them happy and in the mean time they are destroying all that is close to them.
Honestly, I'd be lying if I said I don't care, but it doesn't hurt like it used to. I guess we can kind of immune to the indignities they put us through. I can honestly say that I'm a lot stronger than I was a year ago. I know I can handle whatever comes my way. It doesn't necessarily mean it is what I want, but I will make it. You too will make it, I can tell you are a lot stronger also.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
