Forrest: If you need to let yourself be numb then be numb. I am glad you had a good day, they will only get better in terms of dealing with the emotions....
Why will she not lower the price on the house? Are you sure she really wants to sell it?
M: 34 H: 32 M: almost 6 years S: 2 yrs D: 4 yrs Together: 8 Known him: 15 years I walked away: April 1st Wanted back: May 1st!!!!!
I am not sure of anything. Hear one thing see another. Limbo Land, YO-YO whatever you want to call it. She is all over the place which has kept me all over the place the past month. Not sure what to say to the question other than I don't know which is what she is telling me. I hate those 3 words. Hell the listing agreement runs out Thursday on the house. I have asked till I was blue in the face what she wants to do. I have told her take the sign down. I have signed the paper to lower price on the house cause she asked me to. At this point all I know to do is stand back and watch. Nothing else I have done seems to be working.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Forrest I get the whole spouse being cold and you being in limbo land. You keep telling me to focus on me and the baby well you need to take your own advice as little says. Focus on you. Focus on your job. Focus on anything but your w. Trust me I know its hard. I'm there too. Even with the whole house thing. We're trying to sell ours and its not going well. What happens if you don't sell the house? Is there anyway to keep it? Do you even want to keep it? I know that with everything that has happened with H and I I don't want to keep mine. I want to start over. Think about it. Do you want the old memories or to start again in a new place and make new memories?
Yea I got the I need to follow my own advise. Something happened in that moment when I was laying on the bed crying. I really have not thought about my situation since then. I told you I dont trust it but it is still here. I hate what I used to call home. Hate being there. Hate looking at it. Hate smelling it. It is the albatross around my neck. It is the last thing my wife is clinging to. She signed the paperwork this morning. I faxed it as soon as I got to work. Did not even put my stuff in my office. She really had no choice but to do it. In 2 months she will no longer be a real estate agent. I nor she can afford to pay the dues anymore. Just goes to show you how desperate the stitch has become. I am making new memories. With my kids. With my friends. It is funny/interesting that all of the stitches are surrounded by drama. I told myself I wanted a drama free life. for the past 4 days I have. My wife took my daughter to her work to eat on Sunday. Her friend was working and my daughter said she hated him. I had to LOL at that one. We got to this point together. She made the choice to go at it this way. I fought it. It did not work. People only listen when they want to. Including me. I am listening now. I got my second bomb. I WTF up. I am no longer throwing pity parties with me as the guest of honor. I am 36 years old living at my Moms house, broke, my wife does not want to be with me, and I am happy. My friend told me this this weekend "If you live slow, you die slow." Time for me to get out my new tools. Forget about finding the old me and build the best and fastest me I can. 5 years I have been waiting on life to come to me. Guess what it didnt. Time for me to go after it. Hopefully this only posts once.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Forrest I think that is great. Make all the new memories you can. Enjoy every minute with your children. As I have learned nothing is more precious then them. You can not possibly love anyone more then them. They make it all worth it. No matter what happens between you and your W at least you have them. Thats what you keep telling me so I'll remind you of it. Keep smiling and just believe that you will get what you want in the end. The universe gives you what you put out there. I was given some good advice I'll pass on: "Stop saying "I want" because then all you get is more wanting, try saying "I will" because then you will get what you want". It really helps to keep a positive attitude. You and Little helped me realize that. So hold your head up and believe you will get what you want.
Forrest, great realization that you came to! Grab the bull by the balls and enjoy what you have, if your M works out in the end, it is an added bonus! I like what waterlily added, it is for sure if you want, that is what you will get. If you are confident, positive and discover who you want to be, you can take control of your own destiny. If others choose to follow, it is their choice.
