our un-relationship

[DaveJ]

I'm just saying fear can do a lot to ones thinking process. Not necessarily that he's a jerk. Fear makes you do things you normally wouldn't do, or not do things that a person would normally do.....

It is good that he's comfortable to discuss with you his issues. There's a certain amount of comfort and trust involved.

Just like my W, I think these deeply ingrained issues will be a life long struggle. It's never fully fixed. They will always struggle against it.... At least he's realizing that he shouldn't be anywhere near an R until he feels he's more in control of his issues. For my W, she seems way too eager to jump into the dating even though she has lots and lots of things that she still needs to deal with. Ah well....out of my control. :P