Mike, are things any better?? I check this message board now and then...when you around her, don't act happy...your not...don't spend time with her unless she really wants to be there. You will be wasting your time if she is still communicationing, meeting her lover....
She will confuse you and keep your world in turmoil because you'd like things to be "the same" again and she only knows she wants to be with her new lover and nothing else! She will take complete advantage of you if she knows you want it to all work out....that will actually give her the power to continue the EA, I promise.
She has convinced herself that you are the devil, otherwise the cognitive dissonance of having a great husband and a new lover would drive her insane. I can't tell you how many times I told my wife, "I'm not the devil" after she had given me that "look" one more time!
