Hi VS, Have you read the resources threads at the top of the MLC Forum? Both of your questions are answered there and many others.
You have to come to the realization that someone having a MLC is all over the place emotionally. Their emotions can change minute to minute let alone day to day. They feel horrible and depressed and thus the replay behaviors. They are trying to do anything they can to feel better. It is not an act. To them this is their reality. To them it is all about "me, me, me".
Please read all of the resources. The more you understand about MLC the easier it is to detach. this is a very long, hard journey to take. Chances are very good that things are going to get worse before they start to get better. MLC is usually measured in years not months. I know how hard it is to accept that. I remember thinking that this or that would wake my H up. Of course they didn't. 3 1/2 years later there still isn't much in the way of progress where he is concerned. I wish that there were easier answers for you but there just aren't.
When you are sad allow yourself to cry. Find a quiet place where you can be alone and let the tears flow. Allow yourself to grieve. It is so important for you to experience the feelings and learn to deal with them. Just keep them from your H because he can't handle his own emotions and he really can't handle yours.
ST
At the bar the Judge will not look us over for medals, degrees, or diplomas, but for scars. - Hugh B. Brown
