Have you made your wife involved in the breaking off of the A. My husband made all correspondence between himself and OW available to me. There was absolute clarity in what was going on. I am afraid that to say you are breaking it off and then for your wife to discover you havent just reinforces your wife's lack of trust. You have to be seen to do what you say. You cannot give her further reasons to disbelieve you. That sort of thing just erodes at her feelings even more. It makes her feel you are playing her.You have to show her by your actions. OW needs to be rejected big time for your wife to feel at all vindicated.Involve your wife in the letting go of the OW - let her see it is true. You have to show you have no feelings for OW. Any sympathy you show OW is a slight against your W. You must prioritise and decide who is important to you and SHOW that.

You are on the right track but you have to be ruthless to OW.

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength