Heim, if you have a home church, that's a good place to start. Many already have ministries outside the church, either giving to the poor, or whatever. That is great that you want to start giving your time to those in need.


Puddle, I agree that you are in a good position right now, for the most part, taking care of yourself, enjoying life etc. This IS usually when the WAS starts to take notice and possibly getting confused or reconsidering. I just want you to stay open to possibility. I would hate for you to be so focused on yourself and so focused on how bad the M really was that you decide it's too much work to work it out (just like the WAS did however long ago). It sounds like your not THAT far there yet, it was just your comment of "I'm hoping he doesn't change his mind". I think just looking forward to a great man that you will find (which could possibly end up being your H) is okay.

Let us know how the volunteer thing goes, and I'm glad you got some good info from the judge.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."