I see you have 200+ posts, dating back to July. Tell us what you have been doing. What works? What is not working? GAL's? Have you read DR?
You wrote: She does not want counseling and has blamed me for all that is wrong in her life.
Dude, join the club. Most folks here have a spouse who feels the same way. I say that not to diminish the importance, but rather to give you the sense that you are among people who have walked in your shoes. We live that every day.
Have you detached? Does she live with you? We need a bit more background in order to help.
