Well, guess my point was, to be interested in his life...not just brooding and judgemental. It'll help rebuild that communication between you.

xh and I generally talk better over the phone. shrug He used to intentionally go out, then call me from the coffee house, so we could chat easier. It just works.

If he'd wanted to go, he would have told you. I think you spooked him a bit. \:\) xh did the same thing (a lot) shortly after he moved out. Really baffled both of us 'why' at the time...he told me later he was still in hyper-flight mode. It may just be that he needs to do the asking. If he wants to go sometime, he'll offer.

So, wait, was he calling and you weren't responding? And now he's calling less? Maybe time to answer his calls a bit more...he may think you're simply avoiding him, so why bother calling someone who won't talk to him?

I know they struggle. ;\) xh is kind enough to tell me a lot of it.

Eh, xh and I...we've inched a touch closer. Still doing the dance. Life is good, tho...can honestly say I'm happy. \:\)

Azhira

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