More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

Can any of you other DB'ers share what you have done when your anniversary rolled around while still DB'ing? Ours is on the 6th and I'm trying to decide what the best approach will be. Obviously no one will be able tell me what will work best in my sitch but I'd like to get some feedback on what others have done and what, if anything, was the impact.

I want to do something, probably just a card. I hate to let it pass without any kind of acknowledgement. It would have to be worded carefully so as not to seem hopeful - she's heard enough of that over these past weeks.

But then I imagine it could have the same impact as me telling her "ILY". Not supposed to say that because they are then faced with the fact that they do NOT feel the same way. If I give her anything mentioning how happy I am that we have had these past 14 years together, she may very well just think "glad you're happy, i regret it!"

Thanks for any feedback!