Well, this IS true. The crux of the matter is that my kids, your kids, everyone on this board kids will be OK. They'll just never be as OK as they would be with two happy parents in a committed M. That's the part about the WAS that bugs the hell out of me.
I don't subscribe to the theory that a D will ruin my girls' lives. I do know that it will affect them in ways that I'm just not smart enough to anticipate right now
I have to completely agree with those above statements, that is what is killing me the most right now. Especially because my S10 ADORES his father. He is a complete mini-me of his father and my husband is EXTREMELY strongly proud of being a good father to his son, but yet he doesn't see what he is doing in the long term to his S!!! I think it DOES affect the kids in an emotional way, and yes most people say 'oh kids are resilient'. Well sure they are, they get USED to the situation, but that doesn't mean it HAS NOT affected their emotional spirit! I have friends today who still talk about how their parents D has affected them in regards to relationships or emotional pain. And this can be avoided I think, if we all learn how to grow and not run away, take the easy way out. BIG SIGH. My feelings on this. Thanks for bringing that up, it has been something I have wanted to talk about for a while. Especially to my H. But he cannot see this right now.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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