What do I do with her?

[Mike is Hurtin']

So many of these As are so tightly wound that they have to just fall apart at some point. Who knows what your W is getting from OM, or how she is behaving with him, but I'd be surprised if it lasts for a long time.

God only knows I've spent an eternity thinking about this ... but I think that, as the victims of this adultery, we're trying to impose too much logic on something that departed from logic a long, long time ago.

The affair is exciting. It has the "spark" of new romance, discovery and passion, just as any new relationship does. It also has the "danger" element in that it's forbidden and taboo. That's enough to get most people pretty excited.

That said, I can understand why it gets so tightly wound. Who wouldn't want to be in the throws of that excitement? As the victims, most of us have a hard time imagining that - but that's largely because we're in our own personal hell right now, and there isn't a whole lot that would seem exciting at this point.

Who knows how long it will last? My W and OG are in the middle of *something*, and it'll last as long as it lasts. Instead of worrying about their little fling, I'm trying my best to focus on me right now. Working out at the gym, eating better, fixing up the house, and paying attention to my puppy dog. And I'm not hesitating to spend time with other people (under no false pretenses, mind you).

GAL. It's the best advice anyone ever gave me. That, and my mother's wise words: "take one positive step every day". We're all going through a lot, and there's no point in trying to move a mountain in one day. When you get to the end of each day, make sure you can look back and see one positive step in your life.

Cheers,
-- Mike