I am glad you can see the hurt that you have caused. Acknowleding that is a big step forward. I am assuming you have ended the A. When you ended it did you do so in a way that it was obvious to your W you ended it?
My H had an A for 18 months. I didn't know about it until he told me which caused the A to end so I have no experience of what it is like to live for a prolonged period with someone who is having an A. However I imagine you will see what it is like if you go and read some threads on here. See the pain, try and understand it.
I am not suprised your W swatted your hand away 18 months ago when your son was diagnosed. You must have been 18 months into your A then so I think her behaviour then was understandable.
I can see why you felt lonely though prior to the A and if you manage to keep your M together you need to address the problems that existed. Since my h had his A I have had to realise that he did what he did for a reason and I had a big hand in that.
Why do you think your wife lived with the A for three years and why do you think she is making a stand about it now?
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
