Time for healing without closing the door

[Dancer15]

CaseyMooCow: I just read this post where you were asking for advice. My H and I just came back from a very productive session and we are getting information and getting comfortable with what a split would entail.. We are considering a mediated divorce if and when we decide things are still not working for us given some more time. All I can say is that you need to start talking to councelors who know what mediation is so you could feel comfortable with a future decision so that you could make sure your daughter won't suffer.

You don't sound like you feel you are entitled to take a stand with your relationship.. you come across almost powerless and afraid. This is how you tell him you want to hold off on the dance lessons... "I want to stop the dance lessons for a little bit".

And you are right... as we were told.. couples can actually be good friends after divorce because they aren't in each other's face anymore and can be great parents to their children. It does sound like you both want to be friends so just be true and start respecting yourself... Your daughter will appreciate you more for it than to hide behind the fear.