25yr, thanks for dropping in. I try to keep up with you. You're in AK now, have a job, D is doing well but recently thinks she would be happier back in CA - did I get it right? You're still peicing I assume, and I assume you're making progress too. Good luck, fill me in, point me to your thread/posts. Say hi occasionally.
The kiss. Yes, I agree with you. No need to say anything. No need to do it again either.
In your last paragraph, you said "if the WAS returns and is affectionate and intimate, isn't THAT the real answer/solution?" and of course that's my problem, she isn't affectionate and intimate. Is your H?
My W said this last week while we were in her house something to the affect that she was wrong to leave. It was said matter of factly, without much emotion, and in context, I could kind of here a 'but...' in it. So I know/think you had trouble with the issue of your H not getting how he hurt you, what he did wrong. I think he apologized, some, maybe. My guess is this is the best apology I'll ever get and I should be happy with it. If she were "with me" and affectionate, I could easily, I think, accept that. Right now though, it feels like too little.
By the way, how much does an uncontested divorce usually cost? I'm kind of broke these days, but just curious. I want to know my options.
Is there really value in familiarity? Hmmmm. I don't think it would take me long to start dating, but not having dated much at all (having married my H.S. sweetheart) I guess I don't really know. My friends tell me it would be unfair to me and to the woman for me to date too soon after breaking up. I'm sure they are right, but....
and so it goes...
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
