Help me thru this sitch

[Pudmuddle]

Hi Lost, Neph, Heim,

thanks for the words of encouragement. I find this SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO helpful in helping to change my misguided ways. Does anyone have any advice on how to remember to take the focus off of him when I am speaking? Any helpful hints, tips, tricks, interpretive dances? I just find it so hard to think that way, I know it will get easier as I practice.

Lost, I am so sorry to hear that, that must've struck you in your gut for her to say that. From what I've learned here, stop trying to help her, just take the books back and read them yourself. It will help you be a better you! If I can help you in any way let me know. Start making yourself look darn better too! She will notice...especially if you don't say anything about it or why you are doing it. Good luck Hon!


Hi Neph! Thanks for returning to my post. It's good to see the feedback I get here reinforced, so it at least let's me know I'm heading in the right direction. And I have noticed he has started doing kind things for OTHERS, not me yet, but he is being a kinder person in general, so I saw that as a positive. He actually went around a cash register while we were waiting in line at the grocery store, to help an old couple who could not manage getting their groceries out! When he came back I said"that was very kind-hearted" and patted his back. I think this kind of showed him I believe in him whereas I hadn't displayed that before.

Thanks Heim! I appreciate your point of view as well, you be smart peeps too. I actually had lost 7.5 pounds of that in one week due to the DB diet, lol. But hey I still walk and am eating healthy, so it keeps a'comin off. Yay me.