This is such an interesting post, trying to categorise MLCers who want to ML and those who don’t is a bit beyond me, however, a few thoughts come to mind.
I think the crux of this subject is ‘getting emotional needs met’ – I reckon everyone here is in agreement that that is the MLCers sole mission, even when the MLCer can’t identify themselves just what those needs are.
I only clocked one post from a ‘chap’ on here. He said that there is a big difference between men and women in this area; I believe it is recognised fact that sex is usually a lot higher on the male emotional needs list than the female. Also that generally ‘men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love’.
You mention a couple of times that H treated you like a mother (authority figure), mine was the same and likewise rejecting of any intimacy, he is also a droplet (more of a dribble really) but I think that is just ‘checking in with ‘mum’. Are there any ‘mothers boys’ out there who do want sex with LBS?
Although it wasn’t an option for me, I do think there is a danger for the LBS to ML with the MLCer, apart from STDs, in that it will not assist at all with detachment whilst at the same time is fulfilling (rewarding) the MLCers emotional needs thus condoning his behaviour.
A final question; do these MLCers want sex or to ML (or both)?
