The type of R you describe-- getting together x times per week, emotional closeness, affection, but lots of room, would IMHO be IDEAL. In fact, my R with my bf would be ideal if there were just some sex in the equation. Everything else is exactly what I want in terms of closeness and distance.
It's entirely possible that I just do not have the emotional energy to be in a relationship at this time. Perhaps I should just concentrate on Health and Wealth and either be celibate or find a f*ckbuddy of the jolly-slap-you-on-the-*ss-"See you on Friday" variety. If my romantic fantasy is hot sex in Italy with an intelligent, affectionate man, my cynical take on my recent experience would lead me to believe that if I work on Wealth to the extent that I can afford the trip and Health to the extent that I maintain my curves in their current firm form then finding an interesting, attractive and affectionate sexual companion becomes the easiest part of the equation.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
