HolyfrigginCrap Amy.... God only knows what it is gonna take for him to wake up! Thank the Lord you are fully aware of the toll this can and will have on her. She needs you to use a lot of tough love.... for her wellbeing as well as her dads.
Going to be hard as hell to be sure... but the alternative is not an option! We are all here to support you Amy.
(((((HUGS & PRAYERS))))
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.