Our sitch Married 20yrs , first 10 yrs we drank & drugged any bad feelings away. was a rocky road due 2 the addictions but WE were ok . Our arguments always boiled down 2 the same thing, I made her feel unimportant 2 me, she would say I wasn’t emotionally available 2 her, always buried in PC or a movie or some hobby. That’s how I deal w everyday stress of being a man id say, thinking it was a solution & not the problem. I was so blind. We struggled with different addictions (her pills, me food/porn) till the last year or so she had a emotional affair w an older man, a father figure. When she started with he pills & rehabs, stealing my middle sons meds, blowing hundreds of thousands of dollars we didn’t have & the whole mess. I tried to be a stand up guy, get the help you need I said. I wasn’t drinking, drugging or eating away the pain I used the porn & then massage parlors to seek pleasure in place of happiness. I gave her HPV virus (STD) & she required invasive surgery down there. We struggled with guilt & shame & blame for the last few years. She tried to be a stand up gal. Forgive & forget. My guilt was killing me. I watched her every move. Hacked into her cell & questioned every call, I smothered her. Then after a big blow out things seemed to get better for about 6 months….then on our 20th anniversary she had other plans. Huh?…the bomb dropped…. ILYBNILWY she wants to be on her own. She’s planning to separate after the holidays….sell the house & go our separate ways…joint custody we live together but the rings are off & we change in the bathroom she says she could never have sex w me again... I am NOT giving up... I LOVE HER...allways have found this website...(great!!!) reading db ordered DR ordered phone coach to start 11/1/07
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why im here http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1247860&page=1#Post1247860 me 47 w 44 m 20 s 18 s 14 s 8 bomb dropped 10/8/07
