I'm not worried about him getting a crush on me, I'm worried about him getting attached to me as a maternal figure.
That's a whole different thing... and a very legitimate concern. My bf's ex has gone through a LOT of boyfriends since the divorce, and their twins have gotten used to men coming and going. That CAN'T be good for them. I've been such a steady presence in their lives that one of the things that gives me pause when I think about dumping him is what it would do to them.
Maybe you should start spending less time with the two of them. Gradually taper off "family" activities. What do you think?
The Type 4's are introspective and moody, for sure. Since there is a child involved, it might be the better part of valor to start backing off a bit.
The type of R you describe-- getting together x times per week, emotional closeness, affection, but lots of room, would IMHO be IDEAL. In fact, my R with my bf would be ideal if there were just some sex in the equation. Everything else is exactly what I want in terms of closeness and distance.
