Help me thru this sitch

[nephartiti]

PS, Puddle has excellent advice about your prepared convo. Hopefully he doesn't bring up mediation again. If he does, you just keep the focus on you. Don't over respond. It is enough to say you are not ready or it is not what you want.

I think your ideas for 180's are good. Considering the past for you and your H, I think it will help build trust and demonstrate that you are willing to walk the walk. Hopefully he will eventually follow your lead.

As far as LL, I would start doing the experiment the author recommends. If you think he is an Act of Service guy. Start doing a little one every day and see how he responds. Give it a few weeks. If that doesn't work, try the next one. You don't necessarily need him to read the book and take the quiz. Experiment. Again, hopefully he will eventually be willing to follow your lead.

Baby steps are great. It is definitely a good sign that he noticed. Keep taking care of you!