Even if your M wasn't as good looking back on it (although I think our interpretation of it can be a little skewed, just as the WAS's can be, just not quite severe though).
ALL Ms are not perfect. I remember reading something that said, if you can say at least 20% of your M had good/positives times then you definitely have hope to save your M. And actually I don't really remember that exact percentage, but it was lower then I would have expected.
I also know, from experience, that people CAN change. You are changing and your H will most likely change thru all of this. Some people change for the better, and some the worse.
The reason I bring this up, is that I don't want you guys to think there is no way thing would ever work. Cause WHAT IF? what if a year from now, your spouse comes back and says, I am so sorry for what happened, I really DO still love you and want to work things out. We do learn from Michelle that when we change our reactions/ourselves, people change too. I know that your WAS aren't being very lovable people, but I promise they really aren't themselves right now. I think they are a product of circumstance, and that time will tell what person they really are and choose to be. My R with my H is definitely better than it was before.. it's not perfect, but perfection is for fairy tales.
Puddle, I did go thru a similar stage as well, just felt sorry for H, but not a lot of love. I was feeling very confident and almost excited for what God was shaping me to be and I had faith, (even made a list of the perfect man) that God would give me someone. I think it is okay for you to feel this way.. definitely better than bitterness and anger. And if your still feeling compassion for him, that is good and I believe it's very important.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
