If we want to play semantics, I didn't call her a B,
I understand what you're saying, but why play semantics? You let her know that you were FEELING that she was being one, which is just short of calling her one. If you think that this kind of interaction is helpful to your R, gets you closer to your goals, etc, then so be it. I just feel like you can be firm without going where you went with that comment. Don't have to be a Buhddist monk, but you can keep your emotions in check, yes?
I always feel like I'm being too critical of you, Heim. I think you do a lot of good too -- just want to see you at your best 100% of time, you know? My thought is that you can be firm, hold your ground, etc, but do so with some restraint, class, and good etiquette.
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That said, you can't just censor all of your honest emotion.
Agreed, but how you allow yourself to respond to your angry emotions is different from censoring it.
Again, you ultimately know what is best for you and your individual sitch, and if this is a 180 or a tunnel that has to this point gone unexplored, then by all means keep going and monitoring the results. We all do have to exhaust every option or strategy so we know that we've tried it all. Who knows, the one tunnel you think would have the least benefit may be the one that turns things around!
