I think that your H is being immature as stated earlier, but whose isn't at this site. I don't think that the convo about his house or d being told to keep a secret is appropriate right now, let things slide for a bit on this. I am sure he will come around, for benefit of d. He clearly wants you in his life as a friend with benefits, we have seen this. You have set your boundary that this is not acceptable. Another baby with you? WTF! For the time being I think you need to do some trial an error stuff. Try to keep things business like, you have told him what you need right now, afterall you are trying to sort out whether you even want to be with this man. Be friendly, but have an idea of what you need to talk about when you call, don't take all of his calls. Call him back when you have some composure, etc. See where this takes you. He may be mad for a bit, but he may also realize the you are not playing games, etc and accept your boundaries.
