SR, good news bad news no doubt. It sounds like she has been having second thoughts about all of this and now is facing the consequences of some bad choices. I also suspect that she's looking back to you as the one person she feels will give her the loving support she needs to get through the difficult time of dealing with these bad choices.
So the trick for you is to give her the support she needs while also protecting yourself too. With regards to piecing your relationship and marriage back together take it slow and steady and make sure you have a solid counselor to help you two through this process. I am absolutely convinced that it's nearly impossible to piece it back together without a good impartial professional to help guide you.
Lastly, dealing with your own pain and anger over the incident. Remember this isn't something she did to you but to herself and now she's having to deal with it. So for you the first thing is forgiveness. First to yourself for your own anger. Here's a link I hit when I need to work on forgiveness, http://www.celebratelove.com/forgive.htm.
Love is an act of endless forgiveness. - Peter Ustinov
Last edited by catfan; 10/30/0707:01 PM.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
