It's definitely not easy. I agree with Mark.. take the ring off. You would be amazed at how your self esteem and attitude soar when women start talking to you!!
The whole point to all of this is that she is doing what she is doing.. you have to worry about you.Sounds like the weight gaining thing is a good one. Go to the gym.. make gaining weight a goal and work on it.
Matter of fact, maybe a good idea to have the weight gainer sitting out as well as have gone to the gym on the day she is back. Don't tell her... let her ask.
The other thing I've not seen anyone mention is 180's. Have you read any of the books?
A 180 is basically doing the complete opposite of what you would normally do. From her comments "I don't want to hear the same old same old" it sounds like you need to institute this ASAP. Next time she calls and you talk.. NO TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP. NO TALK ABOUT D. Act as if you could care less. If she brings it up.. agree with her.. "You're right.. we should go our separate ways"
These things do work. I would suggest getting the book. If you need to hit the doc.. hit the doc. Just FYI.. it takes 2 weeks for those pills to kick in. Although they should give you something heavier for "just in case"
Just some more of my 2 cents.
I have been doing some 180's, I read alot more. Yes I have read DBer and a sex starved marriage. I also got books on communicaton and how to attract women. Here is my thing, I do not want a divorce and I want another chance. I know that I need to stop that. This is what she is talking about, she doesnt want to hear that. But when we talk Im going to ask about the cheating, I want to tell her that I can learn to forgive her and we can make it work and be happy again...but I know she doesnt want to hear that. How should I handle that???
