I've found that the more I got enthused about xh's place, helping him set it up, etc...the more he invited me along. We now go on shopping trips together to help decorate his new apartment.
This works on several levels...it's validating and supportive of his choices. And, it helps build new, fun, memories.
I thought things might improve. A lot of the pressure has been reduced. This is a good thing--for both of you. It doesn't mean the end.
