I've followed your thread, but haven't commented because the people advising you know far more than I. Now you're entering territory that I know something about...divorce.
Get your own lawyer. Get the best one you can find. You will now be negotiating the custody of your kids and money issues. People play hardball with these issues, so you should be prepared. All communication regarding the divorce should go through the attorneys.
It will also have the added benefit of making her worry about what you plan to do.
