Piecing......and Struggling......but hanging in

[a new 2moro]

Hi everyone....I am a WAS/MLC survivor....my H has been home 3 months. He says repeatedly says he loves me..hes home for good.....this is where he wants to be.

Uhmmmm... i looked at septs cell bill...29 calls to OW...when presented with that there was no denial. He said letting go was harder than he thought. When asked about seeing her...he said 5-6 times...which i know translates into a dozen or so.

he owns the apt OW is in.....his best friend ..who helped H work thu this and find his way home lives across the street.....h was secretive enuff to meet her somewhere besides the apt so his friend wouldnt know either.

This OW is 25...H is 50.....affair was yr +..replay at its finest. She wanted a mealticket to leave her H and low class town. Droped her H ..D final in 2 months! so left everything for H. He supported her during the affair...she lived rent free for a good part of it. he moved in with her...well he put them both into a posh apt. that was for about 6-7 months then he showed up asking to come home

so she is stuck in that apt he has no legal recourse to evict her..he says the rent is going up from $400 to $650 nov 1st....i hope.

so after a calm happy 3 months ..im now back to anxiety attacks and xanax....im panicked by this contact though he maintains he will end this. he maintains he loves me ..this is where he wants to be.....but im scared....i dont want to give him an ultimatum...he has to want to end contact.....who of you have gone thru this?????