Hi, Morgan. It sounds like you are moving steadily in the direction that is right for you at this time.
Anger is ugly. It will eat you up inside. It has to come out. The best case scenario, is that it is handled in a "nice" way. However, it is better to come out in a storm then not at all. Anyway, your H deserved it. He has dumped on you so many times. What's important is you feel better.
P.S. No need to be nice. You are a better woman than I because he probably wouldn't even get "civil" from me at this point. I would probably do the drop off at MIL like MK said.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9