Won't go into details but while I was 'free' this weekend I ended up doing volunteer work for my two daughter's teams at a tournament. 14 hours on Saturday and the majority of the day on Sunday. On Saturday W must have thought that I was very stupid as she asked to come up and 'help me' during the period that her OM was going to be around. She claimed ignorance because she didn't know the schedule but I had sent it to her and one of her friends (other volunteer) said she had mentioned OM would be there during that time. I told her no thanks and that she sucked... later she sent me a long text saying she was very sorry for coming across that way.
Kids came over to my place Sunday night, things have gone smooth. We are finally getting something of a routine started. Last night she had to drop D13 off after cheerleading. She came in and kissed the other kids goodnight then started rumaging through my fridge for a beer. She told me she was "going out with friends".
This AM she called my cell 3 times while I was hosting a conference call, so I didn't have the option of answering. Called her back later and it sounded like she was still in bed. She said she was just wanting to know if I needed any help picking kids up, told her no. Then I got in her ass pretty hard with all this stuff. Told her I moved out because I didn't want to know what she was doing or when she was doing it. Asked her to not feel the need to keep me informed or rub things in my face for awhile. Obviously she is much farther ahead in the giving up dept and I need to catch up.
How come our spouses can't understand that being separated doesn't make everything okay? I moved out to get the pressure off yet she is interjecting it into my life when I am away from the home. Told her that "I" was the one whose life had changed dramatically because of SEP. She is still in the house, same part of town, same friends, etc.
Strength.... Just need to keep detaching. Wish I could have NOT got in her ass about it today but I was 'irritated'.
