There are definitily things you can not dismiss with a good psychic. There were things she knew that no one could have. She also stated she sees that i love H unconditionaly and she sees he loves me too but, he needs to ground himself and that he is working on it.
She said that we will remain in the M and be Happy.
I would call it hopefull.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Things are looking up i think but, i'll take it one day at a time.
I so hope that H does start communicating more and will talk to him again about this when the time is right. Don't know when it will be as it is crazy with his family right now.
Time is on my side though.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Jak, do you feel your H communicated better early in your M?
The reason I am asking is wondering if he changed or if you are expecting more as you want to grow into a better marriage. The reason I am asking that is an interesting comment from my MIL. My H's major complaint with me is my lack of housekeeping skills. My MIL said, "That isn't fair because you were messy before he married you!
Feeling kind of down the last two days. It's me i know but as a result of h's actions or should i say lack there of.
He just seems to be coasting and standoffish. Maybe he's just working on things though so we will see. In the mean time i am working on getting the rest of this weight off. Just read again "for women only" buy Shaunti Feldhahn and it mention how men are visual and like their mates to at least put the effort into themselves as far as appearance and weight. I have always put the upmost effort into my appearance but, weight has been a problem since the birth of my youngest(c-section #3) and is a struggle that has seemingly gotten the best of me at most. Just sucks.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
That coasting and stand offish thing is really hard to live with, I know. And in my case I should have taken it a lot more seriously at the time - but then you don't want to be pushy if he's just working through some stuff in his head, either.
Just try to be patient both with H and yourself. I've struggled with the weight thing all my life and I know how hard it is. Stick with it though, you're worth it!!
Any fun new exercise type things you might want to get into? I was thinking that might both be fun and jumpstart the weight thing a bit.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I've struggled with the weight thing all my life and I know how hard it is. Stick with it though, you're worth it!!
Key here is YOU are worth it. Make sure you are working on the weight because YOU want to. Pleasing H is only a side benefit. Of course, stress doesn't make it an easy task! I love Nikki's idea of a new fun exercise--have you ever tried the stabillity ball?
I do want to loose the rest of the weight for me. It has never been because H wants me to. I think that in anything you do it is because you want to not because someone else wants you to. It makes me think of the old saying " if they asked you to jump off a bridge, Would you?" NOOOO.
I have never tried a stability ball but have been checking into that. I would like to get some kind of little contest going for motivation. Have to think of what.
Funny thing is is that when i lost so much weight before, boy was h jealous of everyone. It would serve him right to be again
No stress does not make it easy as i am a stress muncher., unless the stress is to much then i can't eat anything.
How are you doing?
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
