exiled, yes, them pension money is from his previous employer, he started a new job recently. it never occured to me that we could roll it into two different iras. thanks so much, that might be a very good option for us. I will definitely look into it further.
funny, I have a minor in econ, used to have a fair amount of understanding when it came to money matters...and now, well, I feel like I never learned anything. I left all our investment decisions up to him for some reason. no clue why. definitely out of practice and feel like I'm starting from square one, but I'm definitely going to spend some time re-familiarizing myself on this front. I do know where our money is, at least, so that is something. can only go up from here!
thanks much for the advice.
back from therapy and getting the kids from school. my therapist, as usual, was awesome. she called what happened to me The Perfect Storm (triggered by the divorce request on saturday, the ow talk on sunday, and the acct/money discovery on monday). she compared it to a tidal wave, and gave me some really good advice should it happen in the future. hopefully I will never experience anything quite like it again...it was scary as hell.
and yet, I'm still glad I got the anger out of me. I am. I have been so wrapped up with saving a unsalvageable marriage, that I stifled so much and it was bound to come out somehow. could have come out in a better way, been handled in a better way, but I'm still glad its out there. at least today.
going dark to H. I can't be friends with him. can't be friendly with him. can only be neutral to him, and civil. that's it. no more. not until I am fully over him.
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