hey SR- wow, this is a major turn. maybe this fling is what flipped the switch in her mind. or maybe she was having sex with this guy for a while, and recently found out he was cheating on her, thus the herpes (by the way, herpes does not show up immediately, read up on it a bit more and you may become suspicious that she is not being honest with you). maybe it's what told her that the single life, life with new people, is not easy; in a lot of ways, it sucks.
if i were you, i'd be VERY wary of this change of heart from her. my H asked me back then decided he did not want to work on things 6 times within 4 months. each time he was certain he wanted to work on things, then would decide that he couldn't go through with it.
a long time ago i asked you what you would do if she decided to come back after all she's done to you. you weren't sure. let me assure you that if she does come back, there are no guarantees that she will stay, and it will NOT be easy. my H and i are currently piecing things back together; he moved out of his apartment and into my house; i'm still skeptical of him staying and really working on this with me. it still feels like i'm the one carrying the marriage and compromising.
my advice to you would be this: hope for the best, prepare for the worst. DO NOT let yourself be too vulnerable to her. DO NOT kiss her ass. decide what is the most you can take and are willing to forgive, because chances are, you will find out more than you ever wanted to know.
how is your daughter?
SR- i truly hope this works out so that you may put your family back together, i know it's what you've been wanting for so very long now. hang in there. e-mail me whenever you need, i'm here for you.
