Things are going OK..I have more a calm attitude this week last week was a high Anxiety week. Sunday H and I had that long talk and I think I figured out. Till he faces somethings that happened someswhere in his life maybe even before me He has to hold it against someone. Ususally its the one that has supported you and stood by you the most. He thinks in his mind that if he starts new he can get over everything. He tries to fix everything himself. I have finally realized there is nothing I can do but give him his freedom. You know how they said the more you cling the worse it gets. He told me that is what happened to us. If I had found DB earlier maybe it would have been different. But the harder I tried the worse it got. So I have finally realized that I can't change the past or correct it. I can just move ahead. Maybe later we can work things out maybe not. Right now she is the new exciting thing. He did tell me that she had made the same mistakes he had and they had that incommon. He said she isn't even near the person I am and she isn't very smart. Maybe he was just trying to make me feel better. He said he just doesn't have the past that we have and all the stuff that builds in a 25 yr marriage. Anyway I have to take care of me and move on. YoYO, Your right my MIL and FIL have quite a life. They have been good to me we have had our disagreements. I have finally learned to stand up to them and not feel bad. I have to do business with them and I run the business so we do disagree once in awhile. They do not agree what H is doing and they hate the OW family and her. I don't believe she will be to welcome for a while. time will tell. Everyone always weaks in time.
Jak and Mat,
Are you sorry you asked how I am. I am moving forward. I'm sure I will have bad days. He calls and visits about the boys and business and ask me my opinion on different things he is doing. When he left Saturday and Sunday he held me and gave long hugs and kissed me good by. He had tears in his eyes once. Time will tell. But I have spent a long time waiting for him to change his mind. IT is something I have to face and realize he does care but just can't live with me. So I have to move on and try to have a life for me. Is that selfish?????
