Yet she wants me doing things and I want to be doing them. I just need to find a good balance point for right now and am struggling with that.
catfan, I would think of it less as a struglle and more as solving a problem. For instnce, setting the timing on a car. You never hit it the first time and then you adjust. You keep adjusting until you find the proper set point. Obviously, human emotions are tougher to set, but you do seem to be talking with your W, so that is a positive. All you can do is to pay attention to the signs.
Good luck. Don't drive yourself nuts. You are better off screwing up and being cool enough to know when to change than you are to struggle and show your lack of coolness.
