More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

Another day of discussion. Sometimes wish I had an office to go to outside the home!

Just discussed with W how I think that in order for me to better detach from her, and to prepare myself for HER divorce, we need to change the sleeping arrangements. She agreed and will be moving out of the bedroom (either downstairs in one of the 2 rooms we have - neither are bedrooms - or moving to the couch upstairs).

Also mentioned to her that while I know she is not interested in fixing this, there are plenty of resources "out there" to help her understand what is going on with ME, HER and the MARRIAGE. I mentioned that D is an awfully drastic step for something that maybe COULD be fixed.

Not trying to push her at all. Like I said, she has made up her mind. I want her to really start thinking about what she's planning. I'm afraid, however, that she's going to need to actually make her mistakes (if they are mistakes) in order to see that this is not a real solution.

Am I doing the right thing with this?