I think I know what you mean. Of course I'm engaging in a little mind reading here, but I think my W does think that I should be "faithful" and wait. And of course I should be. Until and if I, she, we, decide to Divorce, I need to keep my vows. Hopefully she is keeping hers.
Being honest, I want to tell her about the kisses. I want to see if she is jealous - to see if she cares at all one way or the other. But I won't.
When my W first came back, I read a book that said absolute honest is the best way to proceed. It sounded good (still does, but maybe only in theory). I confessed everything I could think of that I'd done wrong. I don't think it helped. Maybe it didn't hurt. I don't know. I think it's another case of it not being about me - it's all about her, in her mind. She has little or no energy to spare for me and us.
So, Manwithaheart, how did it, is it, going for you? Is or did piecing work?
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
