Now here is my question and where I am struggling a bit. We've discussed what she wants and when I ask about being the family patriarch, providing for the family and me speaking her love language, she says "that would be nice" in this pleasant almost wishful asking tone.
So how do I go about doing that and not creating pressure on her, looking needy or just plain doing too much than is needed at this time? Using things like the LRT or basic DBing techniques seem very counter intuitive to what she's telling me but I still feel like maybe I need to follow DBing even more closely too.
I am not around piecing very much and I admit this is the first post I have ever read of yours, catfan, but what you wrote is confusing.
If you are going to be the patriarch, how would you look needy? How would that create pressure on her if she wants that from you? Being the patriarch means taking control.
Also, DBing tells us if something isn't working, do something different. I don't know what is counterintuitive about that. Also, LRT. Not sure how this fits right now.
What I am saying is that you need to better define what it is you are trying to accomplish by being the patriarch that she says she needs.
Again, I don't know your story, so if I missed something, I apologize. But there seems to be a basic incongruence in your thinking.
