Heim I think you handled it well. Schedule changes are just part of the rollercoaster ride. Some of your spouses (and some of us) are better at coping than others. I think you did great! I have to agree with OT that there certainly may have been an underlying agenda with W but you didn't bother insinuating that.
Keep up the good work. Hope things get smoother with the kids. I am going through similar sitch with my daughter...acting up for one or both of us, basically acting out because of the separation.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.