HI Mwel I really do not think there is any way that you can ask her to go to this seminar without her thinking you are trying to change her mind. I mean the seminar is about trying to save a marriage correct and she does not want to save yours so I really do not see how you can ask and not have her think that.
You can't change the message to look like you don't want to change her mind. What other reason would there be to go to this seminar? And don't say, "for me", unless this is a seminar on how to divorce peacefully, which I doubt.
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HI Mwel I really do not think there is any way that you can ask her to go to this seminar without her thinking you are trying to change her mind. I mean the seminar is about trying to save a marriage correct and she does not want to save yours so I really do not see how you can ask and not have her think that. What exactly is the seminar about?
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
You can't change the message to look like you don't want to change her mind. What other reason would there be to go to this seminar? And don't say, "for me", unless this is a seminar on how to divorce peacefully, which I doubt.
Yeah, that's what Im running into..I want to show her that leaving isn't always the best answer and I would like to show her this and let her know what she will be losing. I do not want to change her mind, but I want her to look deep down and really think if this is what she truely wants...and if it is that is all I need to know, this is also a way for giving it one last chance and also help me come to sign the papers...Also maybe this will give us a new fresh start, even if we will just be friends.
With the name of the seminar being "Save my Marriage" I do not think there is anyway that she is going to take this as anything but you trying to change her mind. Also you are putting doubt in the ability that she has to think for herself by saying you wnat her to look deep down and really think if this is what she truly wants.
So when are you going to ask her? Are you doing it in person or via email?
With the name of the seminar being "Save my Marriage" I do not think there is anyway that she is going to take this as anything but you trying to change her mind. Also you are putting doubt in the ability that she has to think for herself by saying you wnat her to look deep down and really think if this is what she truly wants.
So when are you going to ask her? Are you doing it in person or via email?
The name of the seminar is "A new beginning", save my marriage is just the website. We I never see in person but I do not know if I am going to call her and ask or send it email. I would rather do it in person but I dont know if she would even want to see me. I asked her is she can get a weekend off and she said not for a while and asked why...
I would do it via email so that you can read and reread what you send to them. I would not send her the link either since she will see the save my marriage thing. Just go with the new beginning and maybe it will not be that bad.
I would do it via email so that you can read and reread what you send to them. I would not send her the link either since she will see the save my marriage thing. Just go with the new beginning and maybe it will not be that bad.
Good luck.
Well no luck...just yet. She can not get any time off. I was not going to send her the link. I still unsure if how I am going to tell her. She asked if I wanted to talk about things..I told her not while I was at work. okay as I was typing this she just sent me an email, she is coming back home this weekend. Nothing about me though, not expected it. She is going to get the rest of her things from our apartment.
OH Mwel - I am sorry that she can not get any time off. Is there a MC that maybe you could book a 2 or 3 hour session with to talk things over with together. So you will see her if she is coming to the apartment right? Are you going to be able to handle that? I think you need to think about this and have a plan in place.
OH Mwel - I am sorry that she can not get any time off. Is there a MC that maybe you could book a 2 or 3 hour session with to talk things over with together. So you will see her if she is coming to the apartment right? Are you going to be able to handle that? I think you need to think about this and have a plan in place.
Yes she is coming to the apartment to get her things. Yes I can handle that, I just want to see her. I dont think that I need a back up plan..
back on after a weekend....bad news the worst i have ever heard. _Me you were right, she did have an affair but I also found out that she was seeing someone else for 8 months before we got married. I used to look at my wife and see nothing but beauty but now all I can see is her uglyness. I am going to confront her about all of these and see if she will tell me the truth then, I am trying to go upto see her but she will not let me. I am so mad and angry at her for this but why am I so stuck on saving the marriage? Why do I phucking hate her but love her? Maybe it was just sex, or maybe she liked the company when I couldnt be there, or maybe she never really loved me. How do I handle this information, I have not ate or sleep in 2 days...it's like nothing matters anymore. Im thinking about going to see a DR and maybe get some anti-depressants. I went to my counselor yesterday morning and she isnt helping me, so I may need to find another counselor. it seems like my life is falling apart and I can not hold up all of the bricks and Im starting to get buried.
